KPIs

Texts sent to you:

Up by 12% this months.

Intimate conversations:

Down by 34.5%

Time spent together:

Has plateaued.

Texts sent by you:

Down by 13%

in retaliation

for underperformance

Conversations started by you (due to poor boundaries):

Up by 9%

Kind and encouraging things said by you:

Up by 80%

When compared with competitors (i.e. TV and movie representations, our parent’s relationships, those relationships of our peers, social media posts, etc.), we appear to be…

underperforming.

We probably won’t meet goals this month.

Possible causes of this decline:

• A global pandemic
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Uncertainty about the future
• Past breakups
• Childhood traumas (even those “resolved”)

What can we do to solve for—

But what are we solving for?

All relationships are not the same

they can’t be measured by values of x

compared to,

standardized,

templatized,

this isn’t a production line

with measurable outputs

the end goal isn’t marriage

to cover up unresolved issues.

Let.

It.

Be.

The only consistent measurement:

happiness.

Value:

unquantifiable.

Things take time.

They don’t work on insta-timelines

they’re not based on case studies,

peer reviews,

market research,

where the output is a ring.

Stop looking for metrics

to measure your feelings.

Take the time to feel.